I'm going to keep it short and sweet. Partially because, yes, it IS that simple and partly because no, it is NOT that simple. Do you get what I'm saying? Of course you don't. Remember in my last post I stated that Depression affects people differently. Naturally, there's no one-size-fits-all solution and for many people who have recurring depression, it's an ongoing battle.
Step 1: Give yourself time to cry, but maintain a certain routine.
Your feelings do have value and you should never feel like you're not ALLOWED to feel them. Stuffing them in a box and hiding them away is a surefire way to have them sneak up on you later, or worse, fester and boil under the surface, while rotting away everything you like about yourself. You shouldn't focus on crying or being sad for too long, though. I've seen people get swallowed up in a cycle of self-pitying misery. It does NOTHING for you. That is why you need to maintain a routine. Continuing with everyday life things, like cooking and cleaning not only gives you something positive to focus on, but also something stable to cling to as you process your emotions.
Step 2: How do you feel? And why do you feel that way?
Take some time, just a few coherent moments to analyze your feelings. Sadness, loss and other negative emotions can usually be tied to an event or series of events that evoke certain feelings. If you feel trapped, tired, and helpless, think about what things in your life might be forcing you to feel that way.
Step 3: Analyze your problems.
Once you understand how you feel, you can usually start looking at specific problems that those feelings stem from... and begin to mitigate them. Toxic relationships, dead end jobs, loss, boredom... once you recognize what you anxiety and depression stem from, you can begin to rationalize and implement a plan to make those things go away, or at least get yourself some coping mechanisms.
Step 4: Be kind to others.
Some people forget that being in a funk doesn't entitle them to be a dingleberry. Just because you're having a bad day, year, whatever, doesn't mean that being kind is no longer an option. Being compassionate can help YOU to break out of your funk. Every little good deed should be a positive reminder that you can contribute to other people's lives and that you do still have power over things happening around you. Also, you can make new, awesome friends.
Step 5: Don't forget about people.
Be with your loved ones, even if you don't feel like it. Sometimes, you can thrive in their energy. Don't forget that here are loads of people who's lives you have touched in a good way, even though you don't realize it.
Step 6: Never stop moving forward.
Every step forward is a step in the right direction. It gives you focus, it gives you something to look forward to and if it's the past that has you gripped with negative feelings, it can help you overcome it.
Take care of yourselves, kids.